fo.cus noun: the center of interest or activity.
The word “focus” makes me laugh.
Around our home it is said quiet often as I’m trying to tell a story or explain something and get a little side tracked, my fiancé will stop me and simply say “Focus” as to get me back on track. I need him like that.
There are many areas in our lives that we have a difficult time keeping focused and one of the main areas would be our relationship with Christ. This is due to no other reason than Satan wanting to attack that vital relationship and cause all hell to break loose in our lives. He would find such joy in that situation for us and will use every sin that is possible to pull our attention from what matters most.
When we become distracted and lose our focus from our faith the relationship we have with God becomes separated; when this happens it opens the door for many issues in not only the spiritual relationship we have with Christ but the marital relationship we have with our spouse.
In Philippians 3:10 Paul is very clear that our number one priority should be to know Christ; to constantly work to foster that relationship and to be right in the center of His will living a life that He would be pleased by. This takes work and discipline on our part.
Men; as you become husbands and leaders of your family it will be important for you to become devoted in your growth of a deeper relationship with God. You will have to become spiritually disciplined in applying time to read the scripture and to fully understand what it is that God is needing to say to you through them.
Sadly as you begin to pursue Him you will at some point become discouraged. During these times, discouragement is difficult and is one of Satan’s greatest weapons of mass destruction. Here you are putting in so much work into this relationship with Christ and something devastating occurs that leaves you feeling like you messed up or that God has forgotten you in some way. Once again, Satan is using this as a form of a distraction in your growing faith.
Don’t give in!
When the time gets hard rely on your faith and the hope He has given you.
Hebrews 10:23 Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful.
There will be times of heaviness in this life due to routine struggles, unanswered prayers and questions and curve balls that life gives. They will all cause your focus to shift and if you are not constantly staying disciplined about the relationship you have with Christ it can destroy the spiritual relationship along with your marital relationship.
Jesus understood this! He told us to not lose heart and to continue putting our hope in God and His glory.
Gods love is faithful and enduring. His word will come alive to you as you study and listen to the scripture. When those times come that would typically distract you and alter your thinking or actions-let the scriptures wash over your mind and have the confidence in His promise to be able to rest in the peace He brings you.
Now for the ladies…
Our loss of focus probably comes in a very discreet form that we try very hard to hide from everyone, our significant other especially.
We are exhausted physically and mentally…lets not even start on spiritually.
We work eight hours a day at a professional job then come home to a house full of things that we feel is our responsibility as a wife who loves her husband to do them and we want to do them; we just want to enjoy it while we are doing them. Take the professional life with the home life and mix in The Ol’ Proverbs 31 Woman duties that is the standard for us as Christian women and we quickly become deflated.
For me, when I become defeated and overwhelmed it makes me feel like a failure pretty quick so I give up all together and just “cash out” leaving mounds of laundry and dishes along with unfinished projects. I’m never going to be able to measure up to all of those standards so why even try? I end up just standing there staring at a pile of everything and give up really quick.
That’s not a great place to be and I can promise you that it does add to a level of difficulty in my relationship with my fiancé.
Let’s stop feeling like this!
Isaiah 40:28-31 28 Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.
29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Now doesn’t that sound nice!
The only one who can give our hearts and our souls the rest they require is God. He tells us, “Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will you rest.”
Go to Him!
Take all the physical and mental exhaustion you are carrying along with all those feelings of failure and give them to Jesus. He has created us to to only find our rest in Him. As long as we are looking else where for rest our hearts will be restless as they long for their required resting place. If we don’t find our rest in Him we will never be able to stop long enough to realize we aren’t supposed to be feeling drugged down all the time and before you know it you’ve grown resentful, cynical and down right unpleasant to be around.
He will reach down and save us from our weariness when we stop for rest in Him. He will give us a renewed strength and energy to begin each day refreshed and at peace. We will no longer feel the need to measure up to anyone’s standard for our marriage because we have taken the time to stop and find our peace in Him.
Gentlemen, what is Satan currently using in your life to keep you from spending more time in His word? Is it stress, worry over money, your job, sports, gambling, built up anger or maybe even the distraction of another woman outside of your marriage perhaps a woman who is vibrant and not weary with all the stress that your wife carries with her each day? Whatever it is, realize that it is Satan pulling your focus from the growing relationship you have with Christ which in turn will pull you away from the relationship you have with your wife.
Ladies, what’s keeping us from finally letting go of the pressures to be everything for everyone? Is it our pride, our need to be perfect, having the latest and greatest for our children so they will be accepted, our children themselves, or could it be the desire you feel that if you were only better at something your husband would love you more or maybe for you it is a man who isn’t your husband filling that void that your distracted husband would typically fill? Again, we must realize this is Satan telling us lies to exhausted us and telling us the way that God created us-in His own unique and special way wasn’t good enough.
Let me remind you-God doesn’t make mistakes!
We all need rest in today’s world. Husbands-to-be and husbands as you become more disciplined in scripture you will be able to encourage your wife and assure her with the Words given from God are her truth of who she is in Him. This will energize her spirit and heart making her excited, youthful and full of joy. You will love that guys! Ladies as you find your rest in Christ you will become excited and on fire with passion for your husband in new ways…once again guys…you will love this!
Thank you for stopping by and reading day 2! Look forward to sharing day 3 of the prayer challenge for my upcoming marriage.
A special thank you to Jordan and Kalen Esber for allowing me to use a photo shot of them while they were on their honeymoon a few weeks ago. A true capture of the young energized love!